Building Relationship - Second Law of Thermodynamics

The Second Law of Thermodynamics states that in a closed system, the entropy (measure of disorder) of the system will never decrease.

In plain language, the second law of thermodynamics indicates that any system, being isolated from the surround or energy sources, will start to "disintegrate". For example, a cube of ice being left alone at room temperature will have its entropy increase ("disintegrate"). This is true and has been quite vigorously proved mathematically in the realm of physics. If you come to think of it, this is also true in the natural world.

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For example, an apple, if being plucked down from the tree and left alone on a table, will decay in few weeks time. This is because, the apple does not receive nutrients from the tree when it is being disconnect or isolated from it. It will eventually die from the "starvation".

This principle is true in the realm of physics and nature. This is also true in building relationship with people. I have heard this particular statement from a well known clinical psychologist: "You don't need to do anything stupid to destroy a relationship. You just have to do nothing."

I felt that this is so true. Many people will say that lying will break down trust and cause a relationship to break down quickly. It can take many years to build a relationship but it can also be broken down by trust in just a few days. Well, I do agree with that. And that in order to build a strong and healthy relationship with people, you will need to be honest with one another and need to share and communicate openly with one another.

Do nothing is a good way for relationship to decay. Picture from BooklistOnline.com

While dishonesty is liken to being bitten by a poisonous cobra snake, the act of doing nothing is liken to cancer in the relationship, where your relationships will escalate in stages until death. In today's fast paced and highly stressed society, people have been working very hard to make ends meet. It is becoming more and more prevalent for both parents in the family to work and bring in revenue for the family. I am not those man with full of pride and ego that the woman shall be a housewife at home while the man in the family puts the bread on dining table. I am not against both parents working to fetch income for their family. But, I start to get worried when both parents start to get so busy with their tons or unfinished work and start to neglect one another. This is the time when the relationship is diagnose with cancer. If nothing is done to reverse the issue, divorce results.

Thus, no matter who you are or what your work is, you will need to spend time and nurture your relationship. Purposely make time to build your relationship with your family, friends and loved ones. Make conscious effort and grow your relationship. It is like gardening, the more you tend to your relationship, the more and healthier it will grow.

Know and understand the difference between what is necessary and important. Work is important in one's life, where you will learn useful skills and have the financial capability to "feed" yourself and others. But relationship is necessary to make your life complete.